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The Curly Road: What to Expect

By CreativeliCoiled — May 07, 2012

Hey Curlfriends!

If your just beginning your journey or in the early stages of transitioning, you probably don’t know what to expect along the way. Don’t worry I was clueless when I began my journey, so I thought I would share journey month by month and give you an idea of what to expect along the way.

For starters I will admit that transitioning is hard work and a trail of one’s patience and for several good reasons….

1. Its going to take time to learn to deal with your natural hair and understand what it needs.

2. You are dealing with two totally different textures.

3. If your not using heat to manipulate the hair( highly recommended) styling is very challenging.

4. There will be people, even  family and friends that will think you are crazy for ditching your perm.

Once you except these factors, deal with them and move on, your journey has now just become a whole lot easier!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Months 1-2

These months are pretty easy, your hair is still feeling the effects of the creamy crack. It will be easy to comb, wrap and roller set.  I only got perms every 3 to 4 months so I was used to dealing with my hair in this stage. I began to experiment with styles that would require no heat or low heat while I was still able  to easily manage my hair.

Months 3-4

Here is where you may hit your first few bumps on this journey. If you are not using heat to manage your hair it becomes a whole lot harder and more time consuming. Your hair may begin to dry out a lot faster. The products that once worked for your hair, may no longer work. Generally, natural hair needs products that offer more moisture and needs less shampoo! Deep conditioning every week and wetting your hair with water and applying conditioner as needed to keep it moisturized in the morning and before bed, will make your hair a whole lot softer and it will began to hold moisture as well.

Months 5-6

Do we really need to talk about these months? I guess we do……well just when you think you have mastered natural transitioning, you will find out that there is a lot more to learn. You will find that your hair need oils and not only deep conditioning but also deep conditioning that offers protein to strengthen your hair. Trimming your ends will also help a lot, please trim your ends while you transition! Styling your hair will get much better because the more you do braid outs , rod sets and sock buns the easier it will get. Did I mention that detangling will be challenging, well it will!

Months 7-8

These two months will be a breeze, it will be easy to work with your hair because you know what you are doing now. The curls and waves that will be in your new growth, will give you the motivation to keep going! Don’t forget to clip your ends to prevent splits and deep conditioning it to maintain the strength of your hair.

Months 9-10

Most people big chop at this point but some are still holding on to their length. One thing I can tell you is either way, you have successfully accomplished something that most people are too afraid to even begin. These months will be very easy and you really know what your hair likes, you now know what styles to do that will work best and you will also know what products your hair needs and responds to. Continue to deep condition, trim your ends and moisturize twice a day.

Months 11-12, beyond!

I didn’t make it this far but my friends who did said it was just like months 9 to 10, but at this point they were ready to chop those straight ends off because they were  an inch away from being au natural!  At this point you know what products work for your hair, you know how to style it and most of all you know how to care for your natural hair.

What did you expect before embarking on your transitioning journey?

Please share your experience and let new transitioners know what to expect.

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About Author

Kientha is the creator and editor of Creativeli Coiled. She is also an educator, wife and mother. She loves all things handmade and prides herself on being crafty and a great mother . Her hobbies are making jewelry and hair accessories. Through her blog she experiences her passion of natural hair and a healthy state of being. Check out her blog at http://creativelicoiled.blogspot.com

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  • Arlenamay86

    i big chopped at month 10, at that point the two textures drove me nuts!!! so the permed ends had to go!!!

    • Keedy White

      Yes!!!!!! Its a battle to decide whether to BC or not! How did it feel to chop those ends off? I felt as free as a bird!!!!!! LOL! Thanks for input!

  • Jones Nikkij

    I’m just at the very beginning of my journey. I cut my hair down to half its length. I’m about 4 weeks post perm. I’m itching to do the BC but.. I have a BH (big head) so.. I think I should wait until I have at least 2 inches of shrunken hair. This blog is VERY helpful – I dare say even more helpful than the YT videos. Thanks so much ladies for sharing. I will be back. @nikkirjones:twitter 

    • Keedy White

       Wow, Congratulations! I know you are excited! I was itching to BC as well and did during my second transition. It’s just doing whats right for you! I had the big head syndrome too, but one of the things that helped me jump this hurdle was excepting myself, all of me, from head to toe! I believe self acceptance was my biggest lesson learned during my journey to natural hair and guess what? When I BC’d my head wasn’t that big at all, LOL! All of us at KCCM are here for you! Come back and let us know how your BC experience was!!!!!

  • Senecea

    I am 11 weeks post relaxer and I am going to transition long term and I completely sympathize with the desire to big chop! I think that I start every week with scissors in my hand because I am ready to be completely natural ASAP..(I never thought about having a big head as being a deterrent) But then I remember that I have never really taken care of my hair in such an involved way so it’s in my best interest to complete my 20 to 24 month transition..I really enjoying using Culformers, rod sets and Bantu knots…I really appreciate your blog! There is so much to learn! Thank you for the advice you offer, I don’t feel so alone in this…

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      So happy this info was helpful for you.

    • phil467sam

      Hi Senecea, I am 10 weeks (if I am suppose to count from the last day i relaxed) and I did not BC. I had a fresh 3/4 pixie cuts. i do have an afro puff that has been working but I really would like to try a braid out or bantu knots. Any suggestions? I really don’t like the look of the two textures. How long was your hair 4 months ago when you wrote this and what texture do you have?

  • Marcia

    Hello!
    I just recently did the big chop for the 2nd time and I had my stylist do an undo (twists?) that has lasted me for the last 10 days.  Now I am facing the need to wash my hair and deal with it and styling it.  I must admit that I am very scared.  

    A little about me.  This is not my first time being natural, I did it about 5 yrs ago before I had my first son. Before I did the big chop, I had had my hair in braids for over 2 years (maybe more).  I didn’t mean to do it that way, but I was sick of the same old ponytail and getting braids was the easiest thing to do.  (I do not know how to really style my own hair and I never invested the time in learning so I always wore it in a ponytail). Then when I decided to go natural, I didn’t have a real problem with the transition b/c I already had a huge head full of new growth.  So, my transition was easy but my hair was a beast.  I found that washing it in the morning made it manageable to brush through, but I only ever wore it in an afro style with a scarf tie.  I never could tame my hair b/c it hurt my hand to comb/brush through the thickest part of my hair (the crown of my head).  Then when I had my now 3.5 yr old and I was severely sleep deprived, I gave up on it b/c as a single mom, I couldn’t wash my hair every morning before work.   

    So now, my biggest concern is how to deal with it now.  It is shorter than it was the first time I transitioned.  The stylist said about 6 inches long.  However, I wore it in braids again for the last year before I did the big chop.  I chickened out at the salon when I went to get it chopped off.  The stylist I used at the time discouraged me some b/c I said cut it off but she said are you sure? (because I only had about 2 inches of new growth. Then she hacked my hair up making it uneven and impossible to wear in my style without having it braided.  I then put it in braids b/c I was pregnant and that was the best option for me.  However, I never went thru the time frame listed up front and I am a hair/style ignoramus.  

    At any rate, I need a starter package of what to buy to keep my hair moisturized, conditioned, etc…  I have read through some of your articles but then I get confused b/c there are so many suggestions and so many products.  Then I battle with the desire to use organic products and stay away from the Sodium Laurel Sulfates etc…  I see a lot of people just use Herbal Essences and products like that which have lots of crazy ingredients.  I’m so lost.  I’m really just anxious about this whole thing and I don’t know where to start.

    Any encouragement/suggestions please.  I am glad I found your site and I visit nappturality website too but so much information, I’m on overload.

  • Tranellriley

    Hi, im 14 years old & im 6 months post relaxer ( i think, i didn’t know that you was supposed to count the months) ….. but, i didn’t really do research  about going natural…. i just decided to go natural when i got my first deep conditioner… i was so in loved with the way my hair felt, that i decided not to get any more perms…. well by time school start again ( i’m going to high shool. YAY! c;) i will be 8 months post relaxer & plan on big chopping CHRISTMAS EVE! but, i need to think of hairstyles before school starts ASAP! :) well bye guys wish me luck!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000039764104 Nadia Thomas

    I generally permed my hair once or twice a year so the texture I was really familiar with. When I decided to go natural I was afraid like everyone to do the big chop and I would go back to the creamy crack. However, I was taking some braids out my hair because I generally keep it braided and my hair had tangled. “I was like oh my gosh”, so at that point I did it……….. I am now true too my Kinky Coils and love it. By the way my husband does too.

  • JAC

    Here’s a question–should I continue to use heat for my hair as I’m transitioning. I think yes because I’m used to it–even before my first relaxer, my mom used heat–my cousin says no, but if I could get some help, I’d appreciate it.

  • MzBlackGemini

    I am 10 months post relaxer. I am so tired of the different textures but I am so afraid to do the BC. Hopefully, I will gather up enough guts to do the BC for my birthday in May. Right now I love my sock buns and my twist outs. After reading this, I will go get my ends trimmed.

  • J.wms

    13 months in- back of hair is almost ompletely transitioned. Front of hair still has a couple of inches of perm – I wear updos (protective styles) or roller sets. Trying to hold out. Pray for me ladies.

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