Natural Hair Mistakes – Have You Made Any?

One thing I’ve learned during my natural hair journey is that our journeys our personal.  Many naturals share similarities in their journey such as product choices, style choices, there are even similarities in regimens.  But there are other more personal aspects of being natural that we alone can only share, even though many others can relate.

One natural hair mistake I made was around my 1 year mark.  I decided to flat iron my hair because I wanted to see how long it was.  Straightening my hair was never really something I wanted to do, but I was influenced by many other naturals who straighten their hair at the one year mark.  The funny thing about it was I didn’t feel like how they felt at all.

When I would watch their videos on YT, they loved their straightened hair and would spend much of the video touching, combing and raving about their growth.  I on the other hand was miserable the entire day I wore my hair straightened.

I could smell the stench of hot hair all around me all day.  Every time I touched my hair, I was reminded that there were no coils to embrace, there were no kinks to rub my fingers through, just straight hair. I was not a fan.  I daydreamed all day about my hair not reverting back and began to scare myself silly.

Immediately when I got home I wanted to stick my hair in the sink and feel my hair transform back to its Kinky Curly Coily natural state. And that’s exactly what I did!

You will make mistakes in your journey and the unfortunate part is that you won’t know it was a mistake until it’s too late.  There are some instances where you can learn from others mistakes, but that’s not always the case.  Who’s to say that you won’t love straightening your hair?  My cousin does and I don’t.

I asked this question on the KCCM Fanpage and was pleasantly surprised the overwhelming amount of comments I received.  Here were some of the “mistakes” that stood out to me.

Adinah Juliet Excessive blow drying. My ends hated me lol.
Tania King I banded my hair while it was soaking wet for stretch when it dried its was these stringy long twists..I couldn’t do anything with them
N Mariah Fuller Buying too many products all because I watched a certain youtube video, or listening to those around me who said a certain product worked wonders! Major fail!
Tamerra Williams Picot Not understanding or being educated enough in the beginning of my journey… I spent WEEKS “moisturizing” my hair with oil. LOL
Rolounda Denise Hartwill Not being patient. Embracing the journey and accept what each day brings.
Andrea Jackson Dyed my hair right after the big chop and it made my hair super dry…so happy I have cut almost all of the dyed hair off but it was def a major setback
Tina Loury Strickland Not getting my hair trimmed.
Michaela Penix I tried a Dominican blowout in July…my curls never bounced back all the way and now my hair looks like I got a texturizer or a j. curl :(  The heat was just too much for my hair. My twist outs don’t last very long and I still have some straight pieces. No more heat for me!!!!

Have you made any natural hair mistakes? What was it? What did you learn?

About Jenell B Stewart

Jenell Stewart MS, the founder and editor in chief of the award winning website KinkyCurlyCoilyMe.com dedicates most of her free time educating and uplifting women with natural hair by way of her extremely popular website and YouTube channel. Jenell has been featured in Essence Magazine, Black Enterprise.com, and starred on the Dr.Oz television show as a Beauty Expert. In 2012 she was named one of Essences top Instagramers and that same year KinkyCurlyCoilyMe won an award for “Favorite Website” of the Natural Hair Community.
  • avflygirl10

    I got a keratin treatment to get a break from my curls, now my hair won't revert :-( ugh!

  • JenellyBean

    Seriously? My cousin got one and her hair gets curly when wet.

  • Destinee

    Blowdrying too much, dyeing and highlighting a few strands with a bleaching kit. I've been trimming the damage ever since. =(

  • Amija

    I went to my hairstylist who did my hair when it was perked and got my hair pressed. Now I have heat damage and a big clump of hair missing. She took great care of my hair when it was permed but I now know I need to find a natural hair stylist who can trim my ends natural.

  • Precious @ Precious-Curls.com

    Overmanipulation was my mistake, and it caused me more breakage than necessary. Now I know to just keep it nice and simple!

  • Hyspin

    Using a fine tooth comb to detangle, Henna treatment (so drying so messy took forever to get out, and my hair didn't like it), let my hair dry out during Autumn and Winter season. Pure coconut oil (caused breakage and itchy scalp)

  • Vsjones77

    Velina Naturalista Jones Heat Damage… My mom uaed an old school pressing iron… :o/ she said. ” girl lemme press your hair…you know better than walkn around with a NAPPY head”–she isnt a fan of my Natural.. :-( any who… to please her I let her do it. I think it was pressed for 3 hours… went home and washed it immediately. I was worried that my curl pattern would not return. I had to cut a lil for my curls to bounce back. I used the baggy method and did a lot of deep conditioning treatments. NO HEAT FOR ME!! No thanks…. I will rock a wig if I want that look. #happy2beNappy

    Oh and I once tried a mixture of concoctions that a fellow youtuber used…… BAD BAD ALLERGIC REACTION. my scalp was on fire…i scratched it til it bled!!! I never found out what caused it…. So I steer clear of all the ingredients in that I used in that concoction mixture.

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      Girrrrrl you are good. I wouldn’t let my mom come near me with anything hot. Lol glad your hair was fine in the end. The first and only time that I’ve flat ironed my hair I was nervous the entire day!!!

      • Vsjones77

        Lol… I know….. She misses the times of me being her lil girl pressing my hair with DAX… Smh. She wont let me go. Im a 35 year old married woman with 3 kids. Sheeesh… Hahaaaaaha. Gotta love her.. Never again…. I washed, (deep treated and condition andgave it LOTS of tlc) out as SOON I was home (it was a 3 hr drive). Smelt smokey hair the whole way home.. NO THANKS..i treat my hair as fine chine now… Sorry Mom dukes.

        • Vsjones77

          Lesson learned…..

        • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

          Smokey hair? Ugh! Don’t remind me!!