By Bree of The Mane Source
It is me or does being natural these days mean that you’re apart of a cult or a secret society? Contrary to popular belief, there’s no directory exclusively distributed amongst natural women. We don’t have a secret handshake (that I know of). We do not have to sacrifice our first born to the natural hair “gods”. And we do not, I repeat, we do NOT all know each other. That seems to be the idea for some though. As quiet as it’s kept, I think I am certain my husband believes that all naturals know each other. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve been walking in a mall or driving in the car and we’d pass a woman with natural hair and he says to me, “Is that your friend?” or “Do you know her?” Every single time he asks me it catches me off guard and makes me laugh uncontrollably. I’m always like, “Sir, I’ve never seen that woman a day in my life.”, and for some reason he NEVER believes me.
One day while standing in a coffee shop we were having a candid conversation about women with natural hair and how we don’t all know each other. We both noticed a woman with a HUGE, gorgeous afro with her back to us ordering coffee at the counter. Like always he asks, “Do you know her?” I open my mouth to exclaim “NO!”, but before I could get it out the woman turned around and it was Patrice aka Afrobella. *face palm* I DID know the woman with the afro. She WAS my friend. At that moment my months of trying to debunk the myths about women with natural hair went down the drain.
What about you? Do your friends or significant others assume you know other women just because they have natural hair? Share your experience in the comment section below.