Dear Thick and Kinky hair:
When I was born I was told how beautifully you graced my scalp, you were always thick, never thin. You were easy to maintain because I was just an infant so all we had to do was wash n go. As I grew up I remember how hard it was to manage you so my mother put a little something on you to minimize your coarseness, and then you were called a “Curly Kit”. You did so well for about 2 years, then I was going to high school and saw everyone else’s hair I decided that I didn’t want you to be a curly kit anymore, so I traded you for some “creamy crack” (CC) boy did i love that CC she was my new best friend, we stayed together for 16years, she was kind to me on good days and bad days, all I had to do was wash her sometimes or brush her down, or add a little gel for slickness, but she never let me down!
Then one day I started trying to take better care of myself because I had reached that 30 yr old mark, and every thing was changing, I started noticing everyone getting different hairstyles calling their new friend “Natural” there were short styles, long styles, and they all looked so healthy and beautiful, and I pondered the thought for a minute, then I lost it, and was like I would never do you like that so I kept maintaining, now honestly speaking I almost gave up on you CC like 3 times, then I started working out alot and CC was not holding up her part of the deal, I would go to the salon on Tuesday, then work out Wed, Thur, and Fri. By the end of the week you had given up on me, so I had to start making some decisions, so i did, and i did the BC. Oh how scared I was because CC had me fooled to believe that i couldn’t survive with out her, and she was almost right, but I started researching products, salons, and simple things to do.
Now this road to meeting you Thick n Kinky wasn’t easy because you let me down a couple of times too. You defy me in so many ways, when I comb you, you break the comb, you didn’t tell me I would have to moisturize you everyday, and sleep with a “silk” cap or bonnet on, I thought I could just tie you up and go my merry way, but oh no, you had to prove to me that you were worth keeping. You kept me spending more money than I cared too, but I did this all just to prove that I wanted you! Now that you and I have been together for about 9 months now, I truly understand why you are so tough and hard to manage see I was fooled by CC to think that you would be just as easy as her to manage, but you are teaching me to embrace the beauty that i have, learn what things work for you, and take proper care of you and you will do just fine. So to TnK I thank you for being a part of who I am today, and I embrace you with open arms!!!
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Jenell Stewart, formally known as BlakIzBeautyful is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Kinky Curly Coily Me. Jenell has a MS in special education and dedicates her time to educating and uplifting women with kinky, curly, coily hair. She big chopped on March 26, 2010 and currently lives in Brooklyn, NY.View all Jenell posts.