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Inevitable Change: A Portrait of My New Natural Hair

By Jenell — February 15, 2013

By Vee of Pretty Girl Rock

There was a time in my life where I avoided change at all costs.  I welcomed it with as much enthusiasm as I would the flu instead of embracing it.  Funny thing about change is that it usually happens whether I like it or not.  Now, I believe that change is God’s way of moving us along in life whether we perceive it as good or bad at that moment.  I’ve learned that either I can go with the flow and grow or stand still as an inactive participant.

Vee cuts her natural hairFor the last 4 years, I have been swimming in change; a new baby, a new home, a new husband, a new mindset and with lots of growing pains in between.  As far as the growing pains go, I can’t tell you that I’ve loved it the entire way through but it has definitely been to my benefit and betterment.   I giggle now thinking of the young, immature mind and the nowhere that I would be if things had stayed just as they were.  I’d be a waste of a talent, wasting my gifts right along with the “going no wheres” that I kept in my company.
Vee shaves the sides of her natural hairRight now, I’m in a time of my life where I can feel the power and presence of God with me, surrounding me each moment–changing me.  My mind once again, bubbling and brimming with cohesive ideas and a bigger confidence than I’ve ever known.  I’m finally on the right path.
Vee needed a change of styleI’ve also been feeling more daring and adventurous–more like myself than ever before.  Ladies, I was seriously in a rut and I had become the “make do” woman that I’d never aimed to be.  Realizing that, earlier this year, I decided I was going to make some serious changes and to get back to being me again.  Along with improving the quality of my thought life and becoming more responsible and accountable, it also included turning over my wardrobe and cutting my hair.
More mature and coming more into myself these days, I like change–it means growth and it is indeed inevitable.

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About Author

Jenell Stewart, formally known as BlakIzBeautyful is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Kinky Curly Coily Me. Jenell has a MS in special education and dedicates her time to educating and uplifting women with kinky, curly, coily hair. She big chopped on March 26, 2010 and currently lives in Brooklyn, NY.

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  • CMarie282

    Thank you for sharing your story! I’ve gone through a similar transition in my life. I’m 30 yrs old and I did my big chop 3 weeks ago, and I can finally say that I am more confident than I have ever been. And it’s not because of how I look, but I had to accept who the “new me” has become, and the confidence just exudes. Life taught me that it’s not what you Go through, it’s what you Grow through! I’ve come to free myself of judgement, competition and comparison and just accept what is, both good and bad. I had to learn to love and give love, and that included loving myself more than I ever have. You are Gorgeous! And your beauty shines from inside out. God bless Sis.

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      Awww this is so sweet. It’s wonderful that you’ve learned to finally love yourself for who you are.

      I’ll be sharing this with Vee.

  • http://www.fabellis.com/ Miss FabEllis

    She is absolutely stunning!

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      I know!

  • http://twitter.com/Netta__love92 Netta

    She is gorgeous! I love that ring she has on.

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      She is do fierce!!

  • http://www.iamwhatshot.com/ IAWH

    You are absolutely gorgeoussss. I recently did the big chop…I can’t wait to see my hair grow. It feels healthy already. I can’t wait :)

    • http://kinkycurlycoilyme.com/ Jenell : BlakIzBeautyful

      Isn’t she?? I love her!

      Congrats on your big chop love!

  • onyinyechi uwakwemdike

    these photos reek of fierceness! go girl!

  • http://www.facebook.com/nicxwell Nicole Morris

    Yes I agree on that change. I’m ready for it but scared and excited. I feel like The Lord is working something now. My heart captured by someone I thought wouldn’t ever see again. He’s inspiring adventurous and ambitious all the things I desire. So with a step forward I want to be there be a new change for myself.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kaila.powell.75 Kaila Powell

    Ok have you seen those beautiful plump lips and those striking eyes, my Lord what a beuatiful woman!

  • Sheena

    Yes honey! I’m so glad that I clicked on this link. I’ve been natural since 2005, rocking locs from 2006-2011 and then combing them out to rock my fro’d out free hair. In 2011, I rocked a tapered fro and after allowing my hair to grow out since then, I’ve retained a good length, but before I really get into being focused on having a huge fro, I WILL BE getting this cut. Seeing this is perfect timing being that spring is right around the corner. I’m like super excited!

  • http://www.facebook.com/charlene.forrest.1 Charlene Forrest

    I love your message and determination. Getting a new look is liberating. it likes planting new growth. you have to prune it in order for it bear new hardy life.

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